Writing, narratives, and journaling

I have finished editing the first draft of my first book. It is an incredible accomplishment that I am immensely proud of. I have opportunities that lie before me. There are challenges ahead of me and, surely, a few roadblocks. But the experience has been better than I could have ever imagined. In writing, I have done what I never thought possible. I have pieced together a narrative that is my own life. A narrative that I can truly call my own.

Life changes and trauma can fragment our sense of self. Abuse can create a scenario where our narratives are co-opted and distorted by others. Our bodies may not be the same as they once were after an accident, a health condition, or a gradual and unexpected decline. Making sense of our own lives is vital for shaping our identity and how we relate to others. The desire for a hopeful narrative, one that is truly our own, can lead us down many paths. We may seek out a medical understanding, a therapist, a spiritual path, a guru, religion, or look to others to understand ourselves. But truly, finding our narrative requires deep self-reflection, and it takes work and time. It is the occupation of a lifetime!

I encourage anyone going through tough times, transitions, or just everyday life to journal. As a young person, I tended to use it when I was mad, confused, sad, or going through relationship issues. Looking back at my journals was a source of embarrassment. I now recognize that as shame. But I kept those entries anyway. They shaped who I am today.

If you find yourself seeking out a cohesive narrative or understanding of yourself, I encourage you to look for a notebook, a guided journal, or use a note app or journaling app. Decide on a time of the day that makes sense or develop a reflex to jot notes as you go about your day. I found that the journal-as-I-go method was the best for me. It helps to explore journaling methods and to try something new if one method does not suit you. It can help you process what has taken place. Journaling is a practice of self-reflection and non-judgment. Your journal can include pictures, newspaper clippings, or art. Whatever works for you. These are your memories and emotions in action.

Your journal does not have to become a book. But it can. You are worthy of the process of creation, nonetheless. The publishing process has become very flexible with many avenues. The outcome of becoming a best-selling novelist may not be the goal, but working towards making your story easier to communicate to others is incredibly rewarding.

So, for all those working through their life stories, I am incredibly proud of the work you are doing. And for those just getting started, I encourage you to approach the habit of writing or journaling creatively and with confidence that it is worth the work. Keep going!